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What if you’re spending so much time worrying about how someone else might feel that you’re losing sight of what you actually want? In this episode, I share a question from a recent coaching session about dating multiple people, liking them all, and feeling unsure about who to commit to — alongside the worry, “I don’t want them to have any awkward feelings.” It’s a question that opens up a much bigger dating pattern: taking responsibility for other people’s emotions. We’ll explore: Why you ca...
What if you’re spending so much time worrying about how someone else might feel that you’re losing sight of what you actually want? In this episode, I share a question from a recent coaching session about dating multiple people, liking them all, and feeling unsure about who to commit to — alongside the worry, “I don’t want them to have any awkward feelings.” It’s a question that opens up a much bigger dating pattern: taking responsibility for other people’s emotions. We’ll explore: Why you ca...
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